After years of marriage, you are out of practice when it comes to meeting men and dating. If you want to get back on the market, you need to learn the new rules of the game. One challenge for you may be learning how to date when you–and possibly your new romantic interest–have kids. You won’t have the time to go out drinking every night in an attempt to meet men–and, face it, would you really want to? With a bit of effort, you can meet men after a divorce.
Step 1
Make new friends of both sexes. After your divorce, you may have uneasy relationships with people who knew you as part of a couple. A new set of friends can give you a new perspective and the opportunity to meet potential mates.
Step 2
Tell people you’re interested in dating again. Your co-worker, your hair stylist or your friend’s sister may know someone who would be perfect for you.
Step 3
Write an online dating profile. It is common to meet people online these days. Searching through profiles allows you to weed out potential mismatches more easily, rather than wasting your time going out on a date. You can also talk to a man before you go out with him, which gives you a better sense of whether he might be a good match.
Step 4
Leave your house. Plan activities outside your home, such as a day at the beach, a museum or volunteering. You could even do them with your kids. This exposes you to new people.
Step 5
Talk to strangers. You never know where you might meet someone. Practice talking to people that you don’t know in line or on the street. The more you normalize talking to random people, the less it will seem like a come-on when you start to talk to a guy you’re interested in.
Warnings
- Talk to your kids about your dating before they meet your new man.
