I think Silda’s probably in shock by what is happening. I personally would give my husband major, major hell for this. I mean, not only the public humiliation, the lies, the infidelity, but also the possibility of STDs—well, if they even still have sex.

But they met at Harvard Law School so they have known each other as equals for a long time. They probably truly love each other. Men have biological drives that lead them to make truly, truly stupid decisions.

If I were Silda, I would have stood by him in public. In private, I would really take him to task. Once everything died down, I would book a two-week spa holiday by myself just to think about the state of the marriage. If my decision were to stay, I would let hubby take the lead in repairing our relationship.

It’s a long road, Silda. Congrats on acting with honor and dignity!

No, I would not stand by him. He’s not only a cheater, he’s also a hypocrite.

After a public humiliation to such a degree, I don’t think I could stand by him.  I would want my daughters to learn that people can be forgiven for their mistakes but they also have to learn that as a woman, you can’t tolerate this type of behavior.
Silda looks like a strong woman, who will get through this.  If she stays, she will never, ever be able to trust him again.

I agree with Sophia...I think I would stand by him through the public scrutiny for the time being.  Then after the worst of that is over, I would decide whether or not the marriage can be salvaged.  And although I think there’s absolutely no excuse for cheating...ever, I do also understand that such a public position must be extremely stressful, and he made, a very bad, stupid decision.  I feel for his wife...she’s got some tough times and tough choices still to come.

Yes, I would stand by him....this is that ‘for worse’ part I promised him. I would not be a doormat, though. I am sure this man has a lot of begging, pleading, and make up work to do. It is a personal decision for every woman, but men are just stupid sometimes. Sometimes as wives we are not exactly blameless either. It takes two to make and break a relationship.

It takes a lot of courage to stay. I am sure Spitzer is kicking his own bottom for putting his family through this. It is really the perfect punishment having your sins aired on TV.

Catholics used to enforce public confessions for mortal sins. It was a horrible atonement to have to go through. TV is our judge and jury now.

The whole thing is just vile on so many levels it’s hard to know what I’d do in a situation like that. But, the variables are complex and these two are deeply entrenched in a relationship that no doubt extends far beyond the bonds of matrimony. There’s money and politics in the mix and those two things can get very complex. I am sure there are reasons none of us can know that keep them together - at least on the surface.

That said, my knee jerk response would be to pack my bags and make a run for door. The whole thing is just beyond seedy and gross. I just don’t think I’d be able to get beyond the gross out factor and if I did end up sticking around it would be in a separate room.

Two months ago I might have a different opinion.  What you *think* you will do and what actually happens when it happens to you, you won’t know until that time.  I faced this very problem about the very same time this all broke in the news....all I can say is that had my marriage not been in trouble to begin with, I may have kicked him out. I found out that I didn’t realize how much I still loved my husband until I found out what he did - then I got this weird, jealous crazy feeling back and realized I did in fact still love him and did not want to lose him.

If the Governor is truly sorry and both he and his wife love eachother enough to work through the hell, then yes.  If they had a great marriage and sex life but he just could not get enough sex or had to have this young chic for some sick, twisted, addiction...then maybe not.  Only she knows what their relationship is all about and if she loves him enough that she can live with the pain and broken trust.